Get down to the heart of it

I find myself categorizing most of the people in my life in two categories:

1. My team a.k.a. "who do I keep in touch with to have in my life for the rest of my life?"

I think it started while being on the robotics team in high school. I remember talking to various mentors and student captains about how valuable different students were to the team, and I think I have sort of thought of people like that since then. For example, there was one student who was (and still is) a very good friend of mine. He was a very interesting person in that he did poorly in school but had the most common sense out of all of us. Not to mention he was an absolute work horse, who did not always see the big picture, but would quietly decide whether or not he agreed with the direction of the team, and he would work is butt of to make it happen. He did not always see things from a leadership standpoint but he was a great follower and was very dependable. So this makes me think, "what qualities do people in my life have that I'd want on my time or my side?" Everyone in my life contributes to different parts of my life in different ways, and which people are worth the effort to keep in touch with and have in my life for the rest of my life? I certainly haven't done a great job at keeping in touch with people from the past, but with email, facebook, phone calls, text messages, and old fashion snail mail (my favorite), I've certainly been making a bigger effort lately to try!

2. My wedding a.k.a. "If I had to get married today, who would be there?"

I don't know when this happened, I think it is because I'm starting to enter that part of life where all my girl friends are talking/dreaming about getting married or they actually are engaged. And I won't lie, being in a relationship makes me think about these long term things too. After all, why date someone at this point in life if you don't see it going anywhere? Especially when my relationship with B has sort of become long distance. We've talked about how temporary we want this to be. I mean I could graduate and find a job elsewhere, and we talk about whether we currently would want to continue pursuing a relationship beyond this stage we're in right now.

Eeek I'm so off topic! But back to the actual topic, I tend to think of my closest friends as the people who will be in my wedding party, especially my best girl friends. If I had to narrow it down to a certain number of bridesmaids, which girls would I have to eliminate and which girls would I choose? And which of that group of girls would be my MOH? And what about the people I want to invite to my wedding? I always wonder, if you have really close friends you don't keep in great touch with (especially family friends you grew up with), do you invite them? I mean, I've been invited to weddings in the past of family friends I haven't seen in years! Of course I would invite all my relatives, but how many of them would actually fly out from Taiwan to see me get married? Most importantly, I wonder what father figure would walk me down the isle. But I'm pretty sure I know the answer to this one :)